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Bette Midler and her husband Martin von Haselberg have slept in separate bedrooms for 40 years.

The 78-year-old Hocus Pocus star tied the knot with the actor back in 1984 after knowing each other for just six weeks. They welcomed their daughter, Sophie Von Haselberg, in 1986.

Now the Hollywood icon has revealed the secret to their lasting relationship is sleeping separately – insisting they made the decision to have their own bedrooms because of Martin’s snoring.

When asked about the secret to her lasting marriage, Bette told Entertainment Tonight: ‘Separate bedrooms. My husband snores,’ before describing her marriage as a ‘fabulous ride.’

They’re not the only famous pair to admit sleeping in different beds, with everyone from Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Phillip to David and Victoria Beckham reportedly having separate rooms.

Gwyneth Paltrow has spoken openly about sleeping in a separate room to partner Brad Falchuck in the early days of their relationship, telling Harpers Bazaar in 2020: ‘I think it certainly helps with preserving mystery and also preserving the idea that this person has their own life.’

Bette previously revealed the relationship works because the couple give each other space and know when to stop arguing.

She told People: ‘I think the secret is giving each other a lot of lead and a lot of room and not being in each other’s faces all the time …

‘[Giving in during an argument is] very hard. But sometimes you have to say, ‘It’s not worth it. The fight is not worth it. You have your way and maybe next Thursday I’ll have mine.’ Keep supporting each other. That’s hard, too.’

Bette and Martin first met in 1981 but didn’t actually go out on their first date until 1984 and ended up getting married just six weeks later.

They eloped to Las Vegas and said their vows in front of an Elvis Presley impersonator.

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Better Midler and her husband, Martin von Haselberg, have been together for nearly 40 years, but they went decades before ever seeing a photo from their wedding.

The "First Wives Club" star, 75, opened up Tuesday on "Jimmy Kimmel Live!" about how she and her hubby, 72, wed in 1984 in a spur-of-the-moment ceremony at the Starlight Chapel in Las Vegas. (She proposed to him!)

For years, the couple had no photographic evidence of their nuptials. "There were no cell phones in 1984. So we had no pictures," the Emmy-winner explained.

That changed about five years ago when, out of the blue, an employee from the chapel sent the couple images from their big day.

"Apparently, there was a photographer there. When the Starlight Chapel closed its doors, which was about five years ago, they sent us the pictures. We had never seen the pictures!" Midler shared.

In true Vegas style, Midler and von Haselberg were joined at the venue that day by only one other person: the Elvis Presley impersonator who performed the ceremony!

Midler also said she made her soon-to-be husband change outfits before they walked down the aisle.

"He got all dressed up in this suit and I was like, 'I'm not marrying you in that suit! So he had to change his suit," she said, adding they had a tape of Italian pianist Nino Rota music play as the ceremonies' soundtrack.

Bette Midler has been married to her husband, artist Martin von Haselberg, for nearly 40 years. The two met in 1981 and, after a whirlwind romance, tied the knot in Las Vegas in 1984.

The couple had their daughter, actress Sophie von Haselberg, two years after getting married. Sophie followed in her parents’ footsteps to the entertainment world, and she married Harry J. N. Guinness in 2020.

While many might know him as Midler’s husband, von Haselberg has had several major career ventures. He was a successful performance artist and has had his art exhibited in major museums. He has also worked in the finance world.

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Through it all, von Haselberg has remained a supportive and loving husband. In 2014, when celebrating their 30th wedding anniversary, Midler talked to PEOPLE about the key to their happy marriage. “I think the secret is giving each other a lot of lead and a lot of room and not being in each other’s faces all the time,” she said.

Midler added that patience is extremely important. Deciding to give in is “very hard,” she noted, “But sometimes you have to say, ‘It’s not worth it. The fight is not worth it. You have your way and maybe next Thursday I’ll have mine.’ Keep supporting each other. That’s hard, too.”

So, who is the artist married to the Hocus Pocus actress? Here’s everything to know about Bette Midler’s husband, Martin von Haselberg.

He was born in Argentina and raised in Germany

Von Haselberg was born in Buenos Aires, Argentina, but he wasn’t raised there. In a 1986 interview with the Los Angeles Times, he revealed that he was the youngest of four boys and was brought up in Germany and England. At 12, he left Germany to attend boarding school.

“I had what might be referred to as a classical upbringing,” he said. “I studied Greek, Latin and stuff like that — none of which I’ve retained. I was a terrible student. I nev